In order to get some space from the problems and begin to clearly see the lies of the problems it can be helpful to create some linguistic space from the problems by talking about them in a way that may be a bit different than you are use to.  A commonly used phrase to describe this is 'the person is not the problem, the problem is the problem' (Epston & White, 1990).  By separating and externalizing the internalized problem discourse from the person we are better able to see the effect that the problem has on the person and the person's resistance and response to the problem. This enables us to give a 'voice' to the problem, to hear the lies the problems tell to capture and captivate their victims, as well as the promises they offer which are used to entice people into the problems evil lair.

* From the book "Narrative Means to Therapeutic Ends", 1990