The lies are unveiled
The Empty Promises
One of the ways the young women described beginning to free themselves from the clutches of disordered eating and substance misuse was by beginning to recognize the many ways that these problems have obscured how they are leading them down a path of destruction. Below the young women describe what is left off of the list of empty promises (lies), which is how disordered eating practices and substance misuse will completely take control of their lives. It has replaced the control that they imagined to be gaining on their lives.
A: They trick you, completely, ‘you’ll be thin, you’ll bebeautiful.’ It totally tricks you and you think if you just keep using it, everything will be fine. You’ll just keep getting skinnier and more beautiful. But really you’re not.
C: What kind of things did alcohol & drugs and disordered eating promise you that you know now that they don't actually do?
A: That it will be fun. They'll make your life better. That it's just something fun to do. It doesn’t show you how much you'll get sucked in and how much it will ruin everything.
Hannah described how substance misuse and disordered eating practices came between her and her dancing. Originally, Hannah had been seduced into believing that being thin would make her a better dancer, and her chances at joining a larger dance company would increase. Yet soon the goal of being thin and obtaining drugs and alcohol took over the goal of being a successful dancer.
C: What happened to your dancing the thinner you got?
A: I couldn’t do it.
Substance misuse and disordered eating practices made it impossible for her to dance. In this way the problems ‘promises’ soon prove to be false.
You Can Always Do Better and the
Bar Always Moves
In order to keep its victims ensnared, the bar needs to keep moving. What is ‘thin enough’ is always changing, and what was once ‘enough drugs’ will no longer do.
Ava describes this.
A: Because, well for drugs and alcohol it is changing your mood, changing your outlook on things. With the eating disorder, maybe, let's say you don't feel good about the way you look, it changes the way you look but it doesn't change the way you feel about yourself you know what I mean? You're always looking for something. You're always like, trying, you're always just looking for something but I find that I never found it. I could never ever find it. It was never enough. I had to always lose a little bit more weight.
Ava describes an important tactic that substance misuse and disordered eating practices use. If the bar of what is ‘good-enough’ or 'thin-enough' is constantly moving, the solution that people are looking for is always just out of reach. The problems try to convince the young women that this is because ‘they are not trying hard enough. If they were trying harder they would achieve the results they are searching for.